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You Are Not Lacking Purpose; You Are Lacking Focus

We may have set many plans and goals to pursue our own purpose.

We spend a lot of time planning and spending money to achieve this. Still, it seems that searching for purpose is quite difficult these days.

Many times, I have failed to achieve my purpose. I change many hobbies, passions, and goals along the way and never pursue just one thing consistently. I have planned it many times and still haven’t found any great progress, although there is some progress. I’m still not connected to my purpose.

At first, I was making great progress on what I was working on. For example, I tried playing music, dancing, and becoming a video game professional, but it all ended in nothing. I change shape and start with new goals again and again. I wasn’t consistent enough or committed enough to what I wanted to achieve.

I thought I needed to find another passion or goal that I found interesting enough or that I felt connected to myself.

The main problem is searching for a purpose.
Then I discovered that the main problem I have is actually concentration.

I don’t focus enough to commit to one thing at a time. I tried many things and pursued different things without focus or commitment. I don’t find myself committing and focusing on developing myself with a purpose. There are a lot of gold things on the road, and I tried to chase them all.

I am not consistent with what I choose, and I disappoint many of my friends along the way.

I tried to explain to my friends why I decided to stop dancing, playing music, or playing games, but it was all a disappointment to my friends and other people.

Now, I not only lack concentration but also commitment.

looking inside
Now, instead of focusing on the golden things along the way, I began to look inward.

I am focusing on writing and reading to improve my life and trying to be consistent with it. I write and try to help people through my experience and learning. I hope to help people avoid the failures they experience and quickly achieve success in their lives.

The things I have to learn and face are, of course, quite uncomfortable to live with. Sometimes I think about what it would be like if I tried to commit to one thing back then. I imagine myself ending up in a different setting and becoming someone different in the future.

This is what we call repentance.

Regrets are those where you know you can do it, but you don’t, and it’s too late. We look for comfortable options and avoid things that make us stronger or that jump out of our comfort zone. Looking back, we might hope to make better choices than the comfortable ones, which weakens us.

So to avoid regrets, you need to know what things you are chasing right now.

1. What are you aiming for?
You need to know what you aspire to or what you really want to do right now.

Sometimes we avoid doing what we really want to do and end up making ourselves blind. This makes us blind to our own purpose and prevents us from finding great happiness in life. When we are forced to do something we don’t like, even if there are good reasons for doing it, we are more likely to become stressed and depressed.

You know what happens if we sometimes get stressed and depressed, right? We escaped.

Escape by doing bad habits like drinking, smoking, drugs, etc.

So, start with what you want to do.

Knowing what you wanted to do, we now need to know what you have to do next.

2. Know what you have now.
You need to know what you are having right now.

If we don’t know what we have or are doing right now, we will end up adding new goals. This is to prevent you from adding another pile of work that could lead you to burn out and lose your sense of purpose.

For example, you could be in college and trying to focus on finishing college. It is possible that you have responsibilities at work and cannot avoid them to have money to eat.

Awareness is the first step to focusing on what we want to aspire to.

The more aware you are of what you aspire to and what you have now, the more you will be able to decide and control it.

Practical guide:

  • List down what you want to do (step 1).
  • List down what you have to do (step 2).
  • Manage (step 3)

3. Control and decide.
This is where you need to know if you want to control things or decide to let them.

I decided not to continue joining my organization and tried to control my writing routine. This all started with being aware of those things. I was also a college student who needed to focus on my studies. This is where I need to control it too.

Still, you have the right to decide whether you want to stay at your workplace or not.

If it is negatively affecting you, you had better decide carefully whether to leave that job or not.

So in step 3, focus on separating them. Find one thing you want to do and focus on it without getting in the way or adding too much work to the things you have to do or your responsibilities. You can add new things, stay with what you do, or delete things. It’s your own choice; you know yourself best, and you know which one is best for you.

The key is that you may lack concentration, which is what you are doing right now or what you decide.

You know what you really want, but you didn’t realize what you had and didn’t have enough focus to follow through. You don’t need more planning or dream goals. You just need to focus on where you are now, what you choose, and whether you are in control of what you have now.

So start by being aware and focusing on where you are right now.

Then monitor what you want to have along the way and decide whether to continue or start your new hobbies or passions or leave them aside.

“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.”― Buddha

 

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